RobBob Posted July 9, 2003 Share Posted July 9, 2003 What I also meant to get across is that we are supposed to have a sense of duty about certain things. A sense of duty reminds you to do for others and put your own needs off for a time. If we all can expect each other to step up to the plate during key times in life, that's a good thing. Predictable behavior is a good thing in stressful times. It's an ingredient of a close-knit community. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
David_Parker Posted July 9, 2003 Share Posted July 9, 2003 If you died, what would your friend do? Do the same! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kiwi Posted July 9, 2003 Share Posted July 9, 2003 Ahh... traditions, institutions, and protocols. L'etranger  Personally, I'd go, say what I need to say, and leave. No need to stay for the other useless stuff. People need to deal with it in their own way--not the socially accepted way as judged by society and tradition. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BURP Posted July 9, 2003 Share Posted July 9, 2003 i woud get good and drunked up and then go to the mamorial. you will be ackting like the spoiled brat who doesnt need to do wha the ohter people do otherwise and what duaner said too. Â sorry bout yur buddy that sukcs donkey dicks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ursa_Eagle Posted July 9, 2003 Share Posted July 9, 2003 Kiwi said: Personally, I'd go, say what I need to say, and leave. No need to stay for the other useless stuff. Â Sometimes people need to be listened to as well. I think that sometimes just your presense, even if you don't say anything, will help others. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stefan Posted July 9, 2003 Share Posted July 9, 2003 Maybe your mutual friends need and want you at the memorial service to help them grieve. Some people don't want to be alone but desire to have others around. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ryland_moore Posted July 9, 2003 Author Share Posted July 9, 2003 I've decided to do both. Thank you all for your insight and kind words. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JayB Posted July 9, 2003 Share Posted July 9, 2003 I'm very sorry to hear of your loss, Ryland. Â This is not advice, just my philosophy concerning funerals that I'll share. Â The reason I go to funerals has very to do with my own feelings or needs, and quite a bit to do with the needs of those closest to the person that passed away - especially the family. Even if you don't interact with the wife, parents, children directly - seeing all of the people that were involved in the deceased's life come forward to pay their respects and mourn his or her passing does, in fact, bring a great deal of comfort to those that were left behind, and I think that they are worth attending for that reason alone. The same is true if it's a gathering of close friends. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dru Posted July 10, 2003 Share Posted July 10, 2003 you can go climbing almost anytime but you can only go to a funeral once, and a wedding for your best friend maybe 5 or 6 times if they are dumb, or once if they are smart. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
allthumbs Posted July 10, 2003 Share Posted July 10, 2003 ehmmic said: Trask if you truly don't need anybody in your life, I'm sorry for you. You're missing out... Or you're one of those exceptions that leads a solitary life and enjoys it. I am quite happy without friends. I talk to people all day in my business and the last thing I want after work is to talk to someone else, or have people dropping over. Even on the weekends I prefer to be alone. I have some women friends that spend time with me, but that's different. I love my basically solitary life....wouldn't have it any other way. Besides, I have you guys to bug. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kitten Posted July 10, 2003 Share Posted July 10, 2003 trask said: ehmmic said: Trask if you truly don't need anybody in your life, I'm sorry for you. You're missing out... Or you're one of those exceptions that leads a solitary life and enjoys it. I am quite happy without friends. I talk to people all day in my business and the last thing I want after work is to talk to someone else, or have people dropping over. Even on the weekends I prefer to be alone. I have some women friends that spend time with me, but that's different. I love my basically solitary life....wouldn't have it any other way. Besides, I have you guys to bug. That's right - trask is never alone. He has his computer Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
allthumbs Posted July 10, 2003 Share Posted July 10, 2003 kitten said: trask said: ehmmic said: Trask if you truly don't need anybody in your life, I'm sorry for you. You're missing out... Or you're one of those exceptions that leads a solitary life and enjoys it. I am quite happy without friends. I talk to people all day in my business and the last thing I want after work is to talk to someone else, or have people dropping over. Even on the weekends I prefer to be alone. I have some women friends that spend time with me, but that's different. I love my basically solitary life....wouldn't have it any other way. Besides, I have you guys to bug. That's right - trask is never alone. He has his computer spoken from the spray addicted girl named kitten - hey I just got in from skiing all afternoon and taking the girls tubing. what's your excuse? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EWolfe Posted July 10, 2003 Share Posted July 10, 2003 Trask in from an afternoon of skiing, waiting for a call from the next client: Â Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlpineK Posted July 10, 2003 Share Posted July 10, 2003 Dru said: you can go climbing almost anytime but you can only go to a funeral once, and a wedding for your best friend maybe 5 or 6 times if they are dumb, or once if they are smart. Â I wouldn't go cause your gf is trying to lay some guilt trip on you, but I would go. Â Â Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dru Posted July 10, 2003 Share Posted July 10, 2003 if you are really lucky, don't pass up the opportunity to go to your own funeral Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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