That was one of my thoughts, too, Arch.
Personally, I don't see anything wrong with being soft, pretty, delicate, and all that, if that's your thing. But it's not everyone's ideal and it's not every woman's inherent identity. Femme, butch, jock, lipstick, tomboy, whatever...it's all good, long as you're being real. And willing to accept that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes.
It bothered me to see them attempt to quash that little girl's potential. But, as has been pointed out, she'll probably come out on top.