thanks for a thoughtful answer agal. equestrian sports are dominated by women (in the US). when i was teaching we never had discussions of needing a women's group so i guess it never occurred to me that this might be an issue.
omfg. this is the kina shit myth perpetuated in school systems. just get on with life already. do what you want. dont overanalyze. dint that dude from tibet have something to say about 'selfimportance'?