Last night on Anderson Cooper, they interviewed a gay preacher who was a member of Falwell's church in Virginia. Needless to say, Falwell shunned his gay lifestyle, and the man worked diligently against his attitude. But the man felt that Falwell was honest and sincere, though wrong about homosexuality, and didn't *hate* the man. He was also sad for Falwell's family and friends at his passing.
You could learn something from him.