Dechristo Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 ...But I figure whoever is first to the door opens it, right? I tend to not think of it as a guy/girl thing until I do get that weird look. Agreed! And I wouldn't give you any wierd looks for getting the door for me, either. I would give you a cheery, "Thank you!" though. Awesome!! I'd open the door for you any day! ...and then we'd bow endlessly to each other exchanging,"after you" "No, after you." "No, I insist after you." "Oh, please, after you." My dear, after you." "Get through the door." "Don't tell me what to do, YOU get through the fuckin' door." "Don't you use that tone of voice with ME, get your ASS THROUGH THE DOOR!!!" And you continue hurling epithets and spraying saliva at each other until a draw is declared. Quote
Kitergal Posted July 6, 2005 Author Posted July 6, 2005 do you still go climb?? or does the ass dog ya 'cause he wanted more?? Quote
espirita Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 ...But I figure whoever is first to the door opens it, right? I tend to not think of it as a guy/girl thing until I do get that weird look. Agreed! And I wouldn't give you any wierd looks for getting the door for me, either. I would give you a cheery, "Thank you!" though. Awesome!! I'd open the door for you any day! ...and then we'd bow endlessly to each other exchanging,"after you" "No, after you." "No, I insist after you." "Oh, please, after you." My dear, after you." "Get through the door." "Don't tell me what to do, YOU get through the fuckin' door." "Don't you use that tone of voice with ME, get your ASS THROUGH THE DOOR!!!" And you continue hurling epithets and spraying saliva at each other until a draw is declared. CORRECTION: Until I win. Quote
sobo Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 Climbing is climbing, a date is a date. They are mutually exclusive propositions. If either party wants more than climbing, they must state so explicitly. TLG has it right: get it out in the open before someone gets the wrong idea. Miscommunication can lead to soooooo many fuck-ups. Quote
cj001f Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 Climbing is climbing, a date is a date. They are mutually exclusive propositions. Hmm. This is not so at many of the "climbing gyms" sprinkled about the country. Quote
thelawgoddess Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 do you still go climb?? or does the ass dog ya 'cause he wanted more?? one time the guy didn't want to climb anymore. that was fine by me if he was gonna be like that! and the other time, i decided not to climb with the guy because it just sort of creeped me out. Quote
sobo Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 Climbing is climbing, a date is a date. They are mutually exclusive propositions. Hmm. This is not so at many of the "climbing gyms" sprinkled about the country. Possibly, but then are they really "climbing" gyms, or meat markets to hook up with someone. Kinda reminds me of the "health clubs" that sprouted up all over the country in the mid-80s... Were they really health clubs, or just another place to pick up a hunk-o-meat that replaced the aging disco craze? Quote
thelawgoddess Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 Climbing is climbing, a date is a date. They are mutually exclusive propositions. If either party wants more than climbing, they must state so explicitly. TLG has it right: get it out in the open before someone gets the wrong idea. Miscommunication can lead to soooooo many fuck-ups. i agree; they should be. it's one thing if the hookup just sort of happens while the climbing is going on and people get to know each other, but it's entirely different if one of the parties is going into the climbing expecting something (besides climbing) to happen. there are definitely some creeps out there. lots of great guys (and gals), too, but definitely some creeps. Quote
Dechristo Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 What's a gender-specific word for a "female creep"? Quote
sobo Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 ...it's one thing if the hookup just sort of happens while the climbing is going on and people get to know each other, but it's entirely different if one of the parties is going into the climbing expecting something (besides climbing) to happen... Exactly! Someone is deluding themself if they make/accept a climbing invitation thinking they're going to get any action other than tricep strain and forearm burn. Quote
thelawgoddess Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 What's a gender-specific word for a "female creep"? well, if you're a young guy and the chick's older, i think one term in use is cougar. not sure if it's a young girl and an old dude. Quote
cj001f Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 Possibly, but then are they really "climbing" gyms, or meat markets to hook up with someone. Kinda reminds me of the "health clubs" that sprouted up all over the country in the mid-80s... Were they really health clubs, or just another place to pick up a hunk-o-meat that replaced the aging disco craze? It depends when you go, and things may not be obvious. Just an observation. The only rule is both parties should know what the rules are before things get far. Quote
skykilo Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 What's a gender-specific word for a "female creep"? Starts with a 'b'... Quote
selkirk Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 What's a gender-specific word for a "female creep"? I beliee the correct term is "Psycho Hose Beast". Of course "Psycho" and "Stalker" are nice gender neutral terms. Quote
Dechristo Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 What's a gender-specific word for a "female creep"? I've heard: Man-eater Barracuda Psychotic Bitch From Hell Quote
thelawgoddess Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 Cougar?? Nice!! if you've never heard the term, you need to see "Mating Habits of the Whistler Mountain Cougar" ... not sure where you can get it, but i saw it at a film festival type of showing up in whistler a couple of winters ago and it is f'ing hilarious. Quote
espirita Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 So... OK, climbing outings have been clarified (for the most part). What about non-climbing outings? Meaning, when is it a date and when is it not? Or is everyone just trying to keep it ambivalent and be non-committal about the whole thing, so if it turns out unfavorably (maybe the other person ends up not liking you) you can say, "Oh it wasn't a DATE" and you don't have to feel rejected? I'm not accusing anyone of anything but just trying to comprehend this whole dating thing... which, I will admit, I know nothing about. Quote
knelson Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 What if you're climbing with the opposite sex, say... Rainier, and staying at a camp at say... 10,000 ft. Now if you summit multiple times, from that 10k camp, without going below it... did you have a date AND summit? If it WAS a date, did you just have multiple dates? Would that be considered your 2nd and 3rd date, each coinciding with your 2nd and 3rd summit, if indeed you did consider it a summit? Quote
archenemy Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 What if you're climbing with the opposite sex, say... Rainier, and staying at a camp at say... 10,000 ft. Now if you summit multiple times, from that 10k camp, without going below it... did you have a date AND summit? If it WAS a date, did you just have multiple dates? Would that be considered your 2nd and 3rd date, each coinciding with your 2nd and 3rd summit, if indeed you did consider it a summit? I have multiple dates every time I summit. Quote
espirita Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 Well, it certainly seems like a whole lot of people know a whole lot more than me. While everyone else was getting it on in HS I was too preoccupied with school (yes I am somewhat of a nerd) so I would guess everyone else has at least 4 years more experience in that realm than I do. Plus, I get a lot of feedback like this from my girlfriends: "You said WHAT to him!?" "He said that? I can't believe you didn't KNOW it was a date!" "How come you never told me you dated ____?" (More times than no, according to me we never dated.) "You're so funny!" (in a, wow, what the heck were YOU thinking sort of way) Quote
Dechristo Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 A person should be free to "go with the flow", or not, depending on how they're led, no matter what the circumstance. Trying to define relationships based on preconceived notions of any kind is artificial, fraudulent, and fuels misunderstanding. Quote
Bill_Simpkins Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 If you have sex three times on one date, did you score three times? Quote
knelson Posted July 6, 2005 Posted July 6, 2005 What if you're climbing with the opposite sex, say... Rainier, and staying at a camp at say... 10,000 ft. Now if you summit multiple times, from that 10k camp, without going below it... did you have a date AND summit? If it WAS a date, did you just have multiple dates? Would that be considered your 2nd and 3rd date, each coinciding with your 2nd and 3rd summit, if indeed you did consider it a summit? I have multiple dates every time I summit. Is that with aid, or without? Quote
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