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rejection is one thing....

Never disagree with the narcissist or contradict him Never offer him any intimacy Look awed by whatever attribute matters to him (for instance: by his professional achievements or by his good looks, or by his success with women and so on) Never remind him of life out there and if you do, connect it somehow to his sense of grandiosity Do not make any comment, which might directly or indirectly impinge on his self-image, omnipotence, judgment, omniscience, skills, capabilities, professional record, or even omnipresence. Bad sentences start with: "I think you overlooked ... made a mistake here ... you don't know ... do you know ... you were not here yesterday so ... you cannot ... you should ... (perceived as rude imposition, narcissists react very badly to restrictions placed on their freedom) ... I (never mention the fact that you are a separate, independent entity, narcissists regard others as extensions of their selves, their internalization processes were screwed up and they did not differentiate properly) ..." You get the gist of it.

Five (or more) of the following criteria must be met: Feels grandiose and self-important (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents to the point of lying, demands to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements) Is obsessed with fantasies of unlimited success, fame, fearsome power or omnipotence, unequalled brilliance (the cerebral narcissist), bodily beauty or sexual performance (the somatic narcissist), or ideal, everlasting, all-conquering love or passion Firmly convinced that he or she is unique and, being special, can only be understood by, should only be treated by, or associate with, other special or unique, or high-status people (or institutions) Requires excessive admiration, adulation, attention and affirmation - or, failing that, wishes to be feared and to be notorious (narcissistic supply) Feels entitled. Expects unreasonable or special and favorable priority treatment. Demands automatic and full compliance with his or her expectations Is "interpersonally exploitative", i.e., uses others to achieve his or her own ends Devoid of empathy. Is unable or unwilling to identify with or acknowledge the feelings and needs of others Constantly envious of others or believes that they feel the same about him or her Arrogant, haughty behaviours or attitudes coupled with rage when frustrated, contradicted, or confronted

Dru why haven't you crapped in this thread yet? Peter Puget where is the link? COBRAAAAAA!!!!

I can do this all myself. Just sit back and relax.

Happy good times! Where my people at?

Well, I seriously want a more realistic voice from the right on the board if that is what Fairweather truly thinks. There might be a lot of left leaning people here (and not all lefties are ELF members **SHOCK HORROR!!!!***), but those on the right that do post help keep us honest. Hopefully people with that point of view will step up. A room full of people agreeing on something isn't that fun, but I'm not worried that CC.com will become that.

I'm looking good. How is your drape hanging?

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I notice you actually dodge the good points that were made and go straight for any weak points. Excellent tactics. Otherwise we might actually get somewhere.

might as well have the best

I have a really, really bad paperback I can send you.

by the way, the Gordon Biersch Double Bock at Trader Joes is very good.

I think thats a great idea for a T-shirt.

I have a few Ed Abbey books...does that make me a member?

There is some amazing logic going on there. It must take a lot of training to make the wild ass assumptions into facts worth acting on.

I'll need this verified by an independent panel of math whizzers.

Check out this killer deal! I'm making a RAID 5 array with them.

How tall is the Canadian?

How tall was this girl?