pacificrain Posted May 9, 2002 Posted May 9, 2002 ...iam still bitter because i directly ask this guy that i climb with if he is interested to have sex with me and he was appalled by the whole thing it seems funny that men doesnt seem to know what they want...if we women are too agressive they back out..if we are too passive is not enough, granting that he was scared to ruin the friendship as climbing partners but why cant be sex be sex nothing more ,if myself as a woman can handle that they why mostthese adrenalin extremist men shy out from , so it seems ..who else could handle this???? Quote
Son_of_Caveman Posted May 9, 2002 Posted May 9, 2002 Saddle-up Honey! I'm ready if you're not a dog. If you are, let me get good and drunk first. Quote
AlpineK Posted May 9, 2002 Posted May 9, 2002 quote: Originally posted by pacificrain: ...iam still bitter because i directly ask this guy that i climb with if he is interested to have sex with me and he was appalled by the whole thing it seems funny that men doesnt seem to know what they want...if we women are too agressive they back out..if we are too passive is not enough, granting that he was scared to ruin the friendship  Sounds like your friend is either gay or stupid, or you are scary. If I were you I'd focus on the first two and forget about the third. as climbing partners but why cant be sex be sex nothing more ,if myself as a woman can handle that they why mostthese adrenalin extremist men shy out from , so it seems ..who else could handle this???? It sounds like your friend is stupid or gay, or you are scary. I think the first choice is most likely.  [ 05-08-2002, 08:54 PM: Message edited by: AlpineK ] Quote
AlpineK Posted May 9, 2002 Posted May 9, 2002 quote: Originally posted by Country Jake: Oh yeh that happen to you to Alpinek.... Nope. Quote
pacificrain Posted May 9, 2002 Author Posted May 9, 2002 i will try to attend one of the pubclubs and you have to judge and tell me if i am scary or not Quote
joekania Posted May 9, 2002 Posted May 9, 2002 Yo, Rain, all I can say is if you have the testicular fortitude to start a topic like that on this board, you MUST be this guy's ropegun. He was experiencing fear of failure (What if I don't make her toes curl? Will she still lead that chossy offwidth for me?)On the other hand, you are exhibiting outstanding judgment by posting after Dru and Borbon have taken vacations, so maybe he feels inferior and wouldn't have control over the resulting relationship shift. At any rate, it's all his issue and you've proven yourself worthy of a better lover. Or maybe belaying is providing him with all the fantasy material he needs. Either tease him relentlessly into the sack (releasing sexual tension always pays off big), or dress frumpy for the crags and see if he comes slinking around, looking for the old sugar. At any rate, check your PMs, I'm sure you're being deluged with offers from the undersexed wall-crawlers that cruise this site. Â Happy hunting! Quote
sk Posted May 9, 2002 Posted May 9, 2002 The trick is finding the right man. I heard somewhere that every strong woman secrerly wants to find a stronger man that will gently dominate her. I don't know if that is true or not, but frankly if some looser can't handle a fucking friend than he is a looser. Having the relationship that you want is possible. Just be clear, set limits, and keep looking and asking. Besides the chase is half the fun Quote
sk Posted May 9, 2002 Posted May 9, 2002 quote: Originally posted by Poseur: boingoingoingoing! Do you have apoint here? If so please make it Quote
Larry_the_Tool Posted May 9, 2002 Posted May 9, 2002 Meet me at the icicle creek parking lot on Sunday at 11:30 (not too early you know). My beefy new Explorer needs to be broken in and you sound like the right philly for the job. Heck, I'll even give you a free Northwest Forest Pass and give you credit for trail stewardship. How's that for an offer you can't refuse? Quote
sk Posted May 9, 2002 Posted May 9, 2002 Uhhh... Larry I sugested that rain find the right man. I don't think you qualify. Quote
sayjay Posted May 9, 2002 Posted May 9, 2002 quote: sk: ... frankly if some looser can't handle a fucking friend than he is a looser. I think she was talking about fucking a friend, not "a fucking friend". Or do you really think that any guy that won't sleep with any female friend is a loser? Â quote: sk: Having the relationship that you want is possible. Just be clear, set limits, and keep looking and asking. Besides the chase is half the fun ???Sweet advice, but it sounds like beta for finding a husband, not for getting your climbing partner to hop in the sack with you... Quote
sk Posted May 9, 2002 Posted May 9, 2002 quote: Originally posted by sayjay: quote: sk: ... frankly if some looser can't handle a fucking friend than he is a looser. I think she was talking about fucking a friend, not "a fucking friend". Or do you really think that any guy that won't sleep with any female friend is a loser?  quote: sk: Having the relationship that you want is possible. Just be clear, set limits, and keep looking and asking. Besides the chase is half the fun ???Sweet advice, but it sounds like beta for finding a husband, not for getting your climbing partner to hop in the sack with you... I don't think that a person who wont have sex with a friend is a looser. It probably would have been helpful had the guy been strait up.(just guessing, but when signals get crossed usualy someone isn't comunicating very clearly) But I do think that having a friend who is also a lover can be a good thing. It works very well for some people. It's all about consenting adults. That's what the limit setting, setting expectations is all about. It sounded like a messey hurtful experience.  If you can't fuck your friends who can you fuck?  Jeez, women are harder to spray with than men  P.S. A relationship that lasts 5 minutes is still a relationship and desurves(sp) kindness and consideration Not saying that it always works out that, just would if the world were perfect Quote
Poseur Posted May 9, 2002 Posted May 9, 2002 quote: Do you have apoint here? If so please make it Yes, exactly. I can't, I'm at work. Quote
bellemontagne Posted May 9, 2002 Posted May 9, 2002 quote: ...iam still bitter because i directly ask this guy that i climb with if he is interested to have sex with me and he was appalled by the whole thing Jeez!!!! I still can't understand why the guy could be so appalled?!?! Amazing... Â I may or may not have taken her up on her offer, but come on. I would have been pretty damn excited if she propositioned me! As a male, it's nice to be the hunted instead of the hunter every now and then. It's certainly far less work... Quote
willstrickland Posted May 9, 2002 Posted May 9, 2002 quote: Originally posted by bellemontagne: As a male, it's nice to be the hunted instead of the hunter every now and then. It's certainly far less work... I'd suggest you go check out "Big Bears" night at the Bottoms-Up Inn. The weekly paper seems to indicate that there are quite a few men getting picked up over there.... Quote
sk Posted May 9, 2002 Posted May 9, 2002 quote: Originally posted by bellemontagne: quote: ...iam still bitter because i directly ask this guy that i climb with if he is interested to have sex with me and he was appalled by the whole thing Jeez!!!! I still can't understand why the guy could be so appalled?!?! Amazing... Â I may or may not have taken her up on her offer, but come on. I would have been pretty damn excited if she propositioned me! As a male, it's nice to be the hunted instead of the hunter every now and then. It's certainly far less work... I think that it is good for a woman to speek her mind, and ask for what she wants. The difficult part is accepting the "no" when it comes. Asking doesn't mean you get it. But it seems more likely. Hurray for speaking your mind! Quote
bellemontagne Posted May 9, 2002 Posted May 9, 2002 quote: I'd suggest you go check out "Big Bears" night at the Bottoms-Up Inn. The weekly paper seems to indicate that there are quite a few men getting picked up over there.... Uhhh, I don't think I want to be a part of that hunting season... Â Â [ 05-09-2002, 03:22 PM: Message edited by: bellemontagne ] Quote
Son_of_Caveman Posted May 9, 2002 Posted May 9, 2002 I think we should get in line for a TRAIN Â Quote
Steamer Posted May 9, 2002 Posted May 9, 2002 Q: If women ask for sex? Â A: Give it to them, duh! Quote
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