<thread drift> Righto, O_W! There always seems to be some grumbling around our house when one of us finishes the pot of java in the morning, probably because it's kind of an "ordeal" to make. Ya know, grind the beans, boil the water, steep for five minutes, etc. When I get a wild hair, I'll make a Bodum, then bring my wife a cup while whe's just waking up. She loves it when I do that.
Regarding chivalrous behaviours, yeah, I still do some, although not always. When you've been around someone for a while, you just know when it's the thing to do and when it's not:
Dinner at a pub/fast food joint? She gets to pull her own chair.
Get dressed up all fancy for a night out of dinner and dancing? I pull out the chair.
I almost always get the door, occasion notwithstanding, but never make a big deal of getting there first to do it.
Never order dinner for a woman, unless it's a foreign-food restaurant, she's told you what she wants to eat after you've translated the menu (assuming that you know the language), and she explicitly doesn't want to butcher the language were she to order the dish herself. Only then is it OK to order for her.
Ordering dinner for a woman is an outdated notion these days. Order the wine instead, unless she knows more about it than you. Then let her choose. It's all really quite simple.
Ya'll can start calling me Dear Abby now...