micromanaging

[crazyjizzy]

Gary,

 

Have you considered that your TA may just think of you as a dumbass? You were the only one at AK'a party last winter who could not figure out how to get there. Most people drove, but you had to climb over fences, and crawl through peoples yard just because the road had a bend.

[olyclimber]

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[ZimZam]

 

 

Pussy-ass approach:

"How about you email him RIGHT NOW."

 

Instead...

"I'm gonna give you three seconds; exactly three-fucking-seconds to e-mail that student or I will gouge out your eyeballs and skull-fuck you!"

 

Yep, he's definately got you by the balls. Take command or you'll soon be reduced to praying he gives you a little reach-around.

 

OOHRAH!

[Gary_Yngve]

Have you considered that your TA may just think of you as a dumbass? You were the only one at AK'a party last winter who could not figure out how to get there. Most people drove, but you had to climb over fences, and crawl through peoples yard just because the road had a bend.

 

Didn't Mr. Beckey get lost too?

[crazyjizzy]

No, and he certainly wouldn't have jumped fences and slinked through peoples back-yards. Didn't you think that Kurt's house was reachable by road? It sounds like you have no common sence, and by the way your TA is kicking your ass, no back-bone.

[Gary_Yngve]

Yes, reachable by road, but that wouldn't have been the shortest path as the crow flies. I wasn't expecting as many brambles.

 

As for my management style, I don't like disciplining. I like being laid back and assuming that folks will get done what I ask of them. I've had to get more hands-on with this TA than I would have preferred.

[Dru]

i think you are just jealous that the hot chick flirted with your TA and not with you.

[Gary_Yngve]

what hot chick? where? phnum? email addr?

[Dru]

in your flirting whine thread

[TREETOAD]

Define hands on

[ScottP]

As for my management style, I don't like disciplining. I like being laid back and assuming that folks will get done what I ask of them. I've had to get more hands-on with this TA than I would have preferred.

 

So, you actually aspire to getting dick-slapped?

[Gary_Yngve]

Hands on, as in I have to repeatedly check in on him and make sure things are procceding as desired. My other TA is great. I can treat him in a much more empowering style, as in, I'd like to to grade X by Y date, and I trust your judgment in grading according to my specifications. Let me know if you get behind or something weird comes up.

[TREETOAD]

OK I thought maybe you might be heading for the old sexual harrassment sabatical out of the country till the heat is off thingy

[Dechristo]

...or just go straight to sabattical.

Is this a Dante level between purgatory and heaven?

[Dechristo]

Take command or you'll soon be reduced to praying he gives you a little reach-around.

I've had to get more hands-on with this TA than I would have preferred.

You disgust me.

[AlpineK]

Gary,

 

Have you considered that your TA may just think of you as a dumbass? You were the only one at AK'a party last winter who could not figure out how to get there. Most people drove, but you had to climb over fences, and crawl through peoples yard just because the road had a bend.

 

 

When it comes down to it I bet Gary is pretty smart when it comes to his specific academic persuit. The problem is he thinks that his smarts in a narrow field imply that he's smart at lots of things.

 

Sorry to break it to you, but you lack a lot of street smarts. It doesn't mean that you can't learn, but for now I recommend being more humble.

[catbirdseat]

Hands on, as in I have to repeatedly check in on him and make sure things are procceding as desired. My other TA is great. I can treat him in a much more empowering style, as in, I'd like to to grade X by Y date, and I trust your judgment in grading according to my specifications. Let me know if you get behind or something weird comes up.

I think it is not ethical to be talking about these people, even if you don't name names.

[AlpineK]

That's the other issue. If Gary doesn't have the balls to fight his TA's mano-a-mano then why should he sneak around posting about them behind their backs.

 

At least invite them on so we can be entertianed by your geek fight.

[catbirdseat]

I think he really wants to talk to a shrink, but he's substituting cc.com for therapy. It's cheap and there are lots of willing, and not so willing "listeners". I'd say we are a poor substitute for the doctor's couch.

[Gary_Yngve]

Well, thanks for the food for thought. I definitely need to work on being able to discipline a subordinate and being able to tell a superior I need more resources/time, and to do either tactfully.

 

CBS/AlpineK, I think you both have some good points.

 

I cope with stress by talking/writing about it. Stress accumulates on itself, I have a decently large base of baggage, and several causes of stress have been intersecting recently. I also forget the "sleep over it before you email/post it" rule -- in the past three years I've sent a few such emails to my advisor that estranged our relationship.

[crazyjizzy]

emails to my advisor that estranged our relationship.

 

Wow, you do have some baggage. The way I read this, you and your advisor had a man on man love thing going, and it was helping your academic carear. Now this new TA has showed up, and you have given your butt up to him. The only way you have control of your life is to be mean, petty, and controlling to your lover. Your jilted advisor is about ready to throw you out of the UW for being stupid, and Fred Beckey wants to kick your ass for you saying that he is as stupid as you. Your life has spiraled out of control so bad that you have to resort to asking your nerdy Mountaineer buddy CBS for advise on love. Is this about right?

[catbirdseat]

Wow, you do have some baggage. The way I read this, you and your advisor had a man on man love thing going, and it was helping your academic carear. Now this new TA has showed up, and you have given your butt up to him. The only way you have control of your life is to be mean, petty, and controlling to your lover. Your jilted advisor is about ready to throw you out of the UW for being stupid, and Fred Beckey wants to kick your ass for you saying that he is as stupid as you. Your life has spiraled out of control so bad that you have to resort to asking your nerdy Mountaineer buddy CBS for advise on love. Is this about right?

Thank you for your interesting perspective.

[archenemy]

Well, thanks for the food for thought. I definitely need to work on being able to discipline a subordinate and being able to tell a superior I need more resources/time, and to do either tactfully.

 

CBS/AlpineK, I think you both have some good points.

 

I cope with stress by talking/writing about it. Stress accumulates on itself, I have a decently large base of baggage, and several causes of stress have been intersecting recently. I also forget the "sleep over it before you email/post it" rule -- in the past three years I've sent a few such emails to my advisor that estranged our relationship.

If you are trying to stop micromanaging, why don't you just ask the TA who works the way you want to train the TA who is not measuring up?

[knelson]

Gary...

 

The quicker you learn that living up to YOUR expectations are NOT the goals in life for other people, the better.

[archenemy]

Gary...

 

The quicker you learn that living up to YOUR expectations are NOT the goals in life for other people, the better.

Heard this before, haven't you Gary?

 

Hang in there, things will change.