crazyjizzy Posted December 17, 2005 Share Posted December 17, 2005 Gary, Have you considered that your TA may just think of you as a dumbass? You were the only one at AK'a party last winter who could not figure out how to get there. Most people drove, but you had to climb over fences, and crawl through peoples yard just because the road had a bend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
olyclimber Posted December 18, 2005 Share Posted December 18, 2005 Control Donald Trump The perfect website for micro managers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZimZam Posted December 18, 2005 Share Posted December 18, 2005 Pussy-ass approach: "How about you email him RIGHT NOW." Instead... "I'm gonna give you three seconds; exactly three-fucking-seconds to e-mail that student or I will gouge out your eyeballs and skull-fuck you!" Yep, he's definately got you by the balls. Take command or you'll soon be reduced to praying he gives you a little reach-around. OOHRAH! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gary_Yngve Posted December 18, 2005 Author Share Posted December 18, 2005 Have you considered that your TA may just think of you as a dumbass? You were the only one at AK'a party last winter who could not figure out how to get there. Most people drove, but you had to climb over fences, and crawl through peoples yard just because the road had a bend. Didn't Mr. Beckey get lost too? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crazyjizzy Posted December 18, 2005 Share Posted December 18, 2005 No, and he certainly wouldn't have jumped fences and slinked through peoples back-yards. Didn't you think that Kurt's house was reachable by road? It sounds like you have no common sence, and by the way your TA is kicking your ass, no back-bone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gary_Yngve Posted December 18, 2005 Author Share Posted December 18, 2005 Yes, reachable by road, but that wouldn't have been the shortest path as the crow flies. I wasn't expecting as many brambles. As for my management style, I don't like disciplining. I like being laid back and assuming that folks will get done what I ask of them. I've had to get more hands-on with this TA than I would have preferred. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dru Posted December 18, 2005 Share Posted December 18, 2005 i think you are just jealous that the hot chick flirted with your TA and not with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gary_Yngve Posted December 18, 2005 Author Share Posted December 18, 2005 what hot chick? where? phnum? email addr? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dru Posted December 18, 2005 Share Posted December 18, 2005 in your flirting whine thread Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TREETOAD Posted December 18, 2005 Share Posted December 18, 2005 Define hands on Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScottP Posted December 18, 2005 Share Posted December 18, 2005 As for my management style, I don't like disciplining. I like being laid back and assuming that folks will get done what I ask of them. I've had to get more hands-on with this TA than I would have preferred. So, you actually aspire to getting dick-slapped? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gary_Yngve Posted December 18, 2005 Author Share Posted December 18, 2005 Hands on, as in I have to repeatedly check in on him and make sure things are procceding as desired. My other TA is great. I can treat him in a much more empowering style, as in, I'd like to to grade X by Y date, and I trust your judgment in grading according to my specifications. Let me know if you get behind or something weird comes up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TREETOAD Posted December 18, 2005 Share Posted December 18, 2005 OK I thought maybe you might be heading for the old sexual harrassment sabatical out of the country till the heat is off thingy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dechristo Posted December 18, 2005 Share Posted December 18, 2005 ...or just go straight to sabattical. Is this a Dante level between purgatory and heaven? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dechristo Posted December 18, 2005 Share Posted December 18, 2005 Take command or you'll soon be reduced to praying he gives you a little reach-around. I've had to get more hands-on with this TA than I would have preferred. You disgust me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlpineK Posted December 19, 2005 Share Posted December 19, 2005 Gary, Have you considered that your TA may just think of you as a dumbass? You were the only one at AK'a party last winter who could not figure out how to get there. Most people drove, but you had to climb over fences, and crawl through peoples yard just because the road had a bend. When it comes down to it I bet Gary is pretty smart when it comes to his specific academic persuit. The problem is he thinks that his smarts in a narrow field imply that he's smart at lots of things. Sorry to break it to you, but you lack a lot of street smarts. It doesn't mean that you can't learn, but for now I recommend being more humble. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catbirdseat Posted December 19, 2005 Share Posted December 19, 2005 Hands on, as in I have to repeatedly check in on him and make sure things are procceding as desired. My other TA is great. I can treat him in a much more empowering style, as in, I'd like to to grade X by Y date, and I trust your judgment in grading according to my specifications. Let me know if you get behind or something weird comes up. I think it is not ethical to be talking about these people, even if you don't name names. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlpineK Posted December 19, 2005 Share Posted December 19, 2005 That's the other issue. If Gary doesn't have the balls to fight his TA's mano-a-mano then why should he sneak around posting about them behind their backs. At least invite them on so we can be entertianed by your geek fight. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catbirdseat Posted December 19, 2005 Share Posted December 19, 2005 I think he really wants to talk to a shrink, but he's substituting cc.com for therapy. It's cheap and there are lots of willing, and not so willing "listeners". I'd say we are a poor substitute for the doctor's couch. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gary_Yngve Posted December 19, 2005 Author Share Posted December 19, 2005 Well, thanks for the food for thought. I definitely need to work on being able to discipline a subordinate and being able to tell a superior I need more resources/time, and to do either tactfully. CBS/AlpineK, I think you both have some good points. I cope with stress by talking/writing about it. Stress accumulates on itself, I have a decently large base of baggage, and several causes of stress have been intersecting recently. I also forget the "sleep over it before you email/post it" rule -- in the past three years I've sent a few such emails to my advisor that estranged our relationship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crazyjizzy Posted December 19, 2005 Share Posted December 19, 2005 emails to my advisor that estranged our relationship. Wow, you do have some baggage. The way I read this, you and your advisor had a man on man love thing going, and it was helping your academic carear. Now this new TA has showed up, and you have given your butt up to him. The only way you have control of your life is to be mean, petty, and controlling to your lover. Your jilted advisor is about ready to throw you out of the UW for being stupid, and Fred Beckey wants to kick your ass for you saying that he is as stupid as you. Your life has spiraled out of control so bad that you have to resort to asking your nerdy Mountaineer buddy CBS for advise on love. Is this about right? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catbirdseat Posted December 19, 2005 Share Posted December 19, 2005 Wow, you do have some baggage. The way I read this, you and your advisor had a man on man love thing going, and it was helping your academic carear. Now this new TA has showed up, and you have given your butt up to him. The only way you have control of your life is to be mean, petty, and controlling to your lover. Your jilted advisor is about ready to throw you out of the UW for being stupid, and Fred Beckey wants to kick your ass for you saying that he is as stupid as you. Your life has spiraled out of control so bad that you have to resort to asking your nerdy Mountaineer buddy CBS for advise on love. Is this about right? Thank you for your interesting perspective. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
archenemy Posted December 19, 2005 Share Posted December 19, 2005 Well, thanks for the food for thought. I definitely need to work on being able to discipline a subordinate and being able to tell a superior I need more resources/time, and to do either tactfully. CBS/AlpineK, I think you both have some good points. I cope with stress by talking/writing about it. Stress accumulates on itself, I have a decently large base of baggage, and several causes of stress have been intersecting recently. I also forget the "sleep over it before you email/post it" rule -- in the past three years I've sent a few such emails to my advisor that estranged our relationship. If you are trying to stop micromanaging, why don't you just ask the TA who works the way you want to train the TA who is not measuring up? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
knelson Posted December 19, 2005 Share Posted December 19, 2005 Gary... The quicker you learn that living up to YOUR expectations are NOT the goals in life for other people, the better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
archenemy Posted December 19, 2005 Share Posted December 19, 2005 Gary... The quicker you learn that living up to YOUR expectations are NOT the goals in life for other people, the better. Heard this before, haven't you Gary? Hang in there, things will change. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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