yikes! i hate using a gri gri. i've actually only used one a few times. i'm sure there's good reasons that the gyms require it but i just don't like it. i'm way more comfortable with my atc or reverso.
glad that you're healing OK. trust--well, time might help. climbing with familiar faces will help. good luck!
also, kudos for not "outing" your partner. it might've been careless which totally sucks but probably not malicious.