Thanks to every one for your feed back. I feel a million times better and more confident now that I can SEE what I was doing wrong.
You all are a great resource. so far every climbing question I have ever asked on cc.com has been answerd beyond all expectations. I know I goof arround alot here (on cc.com), but I realy do love to climb. I have reached a personal plateaue, IF I am going to progress as a climber, I have to start to lead seriously, and stop goofing arround at the collums. I have had a big learning curve as none of this is easy for me. I am not an athletic person, so not only have I spent the past 5 years learning to climb, I have alos spent the last 5 years learning to be active.
thanks again