i'm not going to give you any crap; i'm going to tell you straight up. it does f'ing matter. not to every woman out there, but to me, yes. let me start off by telling you that when i go to a club i go to dance ... but i would rather dance by myself than dance with some guy i'm not interested in. dancing with someone is almost like having sex with them. (unless they're a friend, which is a whole different scenario, and i assume we're talking strangers here.) if you're gorgeous, all you have to do is make a move. hell, if you're gorgeous chances are i will make the move on you. i'm personally not afraid to go after what i want -- if i want it bad enough. if you're "ugly" ... well that's where things get complicated. ugly strangers basically have no chance. none. zip. nada. sorry, charlie; it just ain't gonna happen. if you're an "ugly" friend, you've got a chance. timing has a lot to do with it, and lots of things come into play as to whether anything will ever happen and whether it will a one-time gig or a f'-buddy situation. i won't go into details, but i hope that helps.