I agree with the easy-to-hard approach mentioned several times already. That's what I did.
You might try starting out on overhung stuff (no decking potential) until you fall. That way you can see how you react with less consequences. I don't think there is anyway you can replicate that feeling in a course.
Start with sport and get/make a stick-clip so you can try harder stuff, and of course fall, with less consequences.
Maybe this is obvious, but I am constantly calculating how the fall will go. Where will I swing, how much rope is out, how far will I drag the belayer, etc. I feel like I usually know when I am gonna go so there is usually some sort of move I can do to keep my feet between my face and the rock. Tell you're belayer you're gonna go so they can maybe get some slack in. Though this last weekend I fell completely unexpectedly for the first time, just popped off sideways on a super easy move and got reeeeeely lucky I didn't crack my head open, lol!
For me, there aren't many things more exhilarating than working a crux above the last piece. That head-game is what makes it fun! TRing is pretty safe, leading is not. Leading trad is really not:)