Whether you're male or female you need to balance between tolerance and pickiness when hooking up with climbers here, which is to say you want to find out enough to make sure that you can trust them on the climb before agreeing to go, but that once you do commit to it, be willing to put up perhaps with some unexpected problems. 
  
I think a good rule is don't agree to do anything with someone you've never met, that you wouldn't consider soloing.  If you can't satisfy this rule, then maybe it would be a good idea to get to know them first on safer/easier ground.