Dru's right...just go climbing...sack up, throw lots of gear in and go for it...always put waaaaay more gear in at first, build mini-anchors if you will...as time goes on, your skill and the time to place stuff will increase...you gotta learn sometime and its a risky sport and if you can't accept that its part of the game, go take up golf...
you hit the deck cuz you couldn't figure out how to get a piece in? Well, that's just removing a dumbass gene from the pool, imo...