anyone who is only miserable because of what you love, needs a diffrent relationship. In life it is important to seek balence. BALENCE does not mean giving up who you are. There is never just ONE ultimatum. once they start they never stop. relationships are a good partnership. An exchange, GIVE AND TAKE. In the end it doesn't realy matter if you climb together or not, it comes down to a matter of respect for your partner and SELF RESPECT.