I don't think i was blaming the victim. Having worked closely with abused women, nothing breaks my heart so much as when a women who has been beaten near to death, has escaped started to put her life together, and then goes back to the monster who is trying to kill her. how do we teach our daughters better than that? how do we give them the self confidence and self preservation necessary to keep them out of harms way. what i read that disturbed me, was that the woman didn't want to press charges. to me, that is devastating. he should go to jail for a long time. but thats just my opinion.