I kind of get what you're saying, Kev, but think about it....
You have to admit that to a certain extent, pushing your agenda on the kid is part of the parent. Brush your teeth, go to bed, clean your room, don't smoke drugs in my house, hide your porn better, etc. etc.
If it was all about the kid's agenda, there would be no school, no vegetables, candy all day, comic books, porn and drugs. Not that there's anything wrong with that
It's the same thing with this whole "unschooling" idea -- this mythical idea that kids will somehow teach themselves algebra, geometry, etc. if you just leave them to their own devices.
If I had been left to my own devices, I would have destroyed the world.