Ok so I get the mental part, for that is one reason why I started climbing - total focus. Maybe where I get psyched out is because in a bouldering situation I'm seeing others I'm with fall over and over trying to send the same route, giving failure or falling the option - where as if I'm just heading out to free climb a 5.9/10 (or whatever) and my focus is on the fact that failure is NOT an option. So seeing that I give myself the option of failure when just bouldering while with buddies. I would then need to adjust my mental thinking. Is that what you are saying? is everyone totally confused?
I think what I need is to just go into every situation with better focus and mental attention - and just kick ass. Right?