Cognitive-behavioral therapy is basically empowering one to control thoughts and behaviors without using meds or other external motivators. Check out this site for a nice description: http://www.nacbt.org/whatiscbt.htm
As you probably know, benzos can be addictive, and can also be difficult to wean off. If you can learn to change your emotions via your rational thoughts - because thoughts cause emotion - then you can "outsmart" your fears and phobias. I'd lived for my adolescent and adult life with social phobias and anxiety. CBT has been an enormous help - and the right therapist is key.
Good luck!