CuriousMe

fenderfour, I think you nailed it. And Buterfly, you're assuming I'm a man, aren't you? I seem to be the only one really "complaining" here - most people seem to think a "mixed" relationship works, except Mike but he's just cursed right? There are many reasons I didn't want people to know my gender. The advice has been much less distracted by speculations on whether I'm an asshole guy or a whiney chick. I used to be in a relationship w/a serious mtn biker, but we both dug skiing/snowboarding and they could climb (we met on an alpine climb). It just wasn't their first priority, and mtn biking wasn't mine, and that actually worked out REALLY well. It gave us enough space to do our own thing when we wanted, but we could also join each other if wanted and provide some comic relief. Now I'm w/someone who prefers bars, the scene, the excitement of flirting, and TV. Hmm... Thanks all for the advice guys.

This person has followed me out into the mountains: rock, alpine, and skiing. Unfortunately there were "enjoyment problems" all around. They DO it, it's just not nearly as fun for them as it is for me, so I end up babysitting a bit. (suck!) Then I start to get frustrated with them and MYSELF for even getting frustrated - must remind myself how cool a person they are in "real" life (like mikey's "saint"). I guess I just need to forget about them even joining in and start making a bigger effort to get out on my own. I've been getting lazy, and that's the BIGGEST problem here. I'm soooooo much more motivated when my SO plays outside too.

Drinking is a good idea. I think the biggest thing that sucks about this is we can't hang out on the weekends (except during bad weather - see bitch about the weather thread) and we're both probably eyeing people in our repsective playgrounds, especially my partner (easier in a bar). They've taken flirting to a sport level, fer shizzle. Their thought="could I bag that...hot shit?" & my thought="could I bag that...summit?"...or "look at that hottie on the other route, anyone got binocs?" Oh wait, time for another drink... I wouldn't mind hearing from more people who have partners who don't climb, and it all works, and how you make it work. I tend to agree with "play together stay together," but if there's a way you keep it together, I'd like to hear it.

Anybody out there have a significant other who does NOT climb? Did you try to bring them "in" and they didn't quite like it that much? How do/did you handle this? What if my partner prefers bars to walls, and likes mac'ing on other people more than watching my ass while belaying me? Should I be concerned about this? Don't get me wrong, I like this person, but sometimes I wonder if this can really last. And don't worry, I'm not going really DO anything as a result of what's posted here, so save any lectures on getting this kind of advice from this forum for some other thread. I'm just curious if anyone else has gone through something similar.